Space: Right/Wrong

“Between stimulus and response is a space.
In that space is the freedom and power to choose.”

Steven Covey

Space Series


Let’s talk about right and wrong. One of the things that responsibility process teaches me is that there is no right and wrong. Right and wrong are made up, they come from a point of view. Points of view are boxes and all boxes are controlling.

We’re always told to think out of the box, which means to let go of point of view – including perspectives about right and wrong.

We know that every time something goes wrong, The Responsibility Process® is triggered. Right and wrong are a very specific trigger, in a lot of ways our society depends on that trigger.

One of the hardest things about learning to practice Responsibility is learning that there is no right and wrong.

Right and wrong are all made up by humans to control themselves and each other.

Now that doesn’t mean that we practice anarchy. We practice thinking for ourselves. Right and wrong is just a autopilot.

In between stimulus and response is a space, and when we remove that space and put things on autopilot, we get stimulus and reaction instead of stimulus and response.

The thing to do is to feel the stimulus, in other words, catch yourself in right-wrong thinking mode and stop and realize that you’re in control mode. You’re in shortcut mode – when you realize that stop and think for yourself.

Often, the better question than what’s the right answer, or wrong answer, is what do we want about this situation. What do I want about the situation involves intention. Intention is one of the keys of Responsibility.

Here’s what you can do about this today.

Catch yourself in right-wrong thinking, slow down, and ask yourself if there’s something more to examine than just right and wrong.

The Responsibility Process
Responsibility Workshops Logo

Confidently guide your team to get more done with less stress and more fun.

Stay Connected

As a member of the Responsibility Community, you, your team, family and your organization can be rewarded with ongoing dialogue about what true Responsibility means, how to practice it and what noticeable, positive impacts it brings to life and work.

We are continually seeking and finding new ways to serve and freely share content.

Let us know how we can support you in deepening your own Responsibility practice. Or just send us a kudos. We’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Media
double line logo dark circle
Sign up to get Responsibility practice guidance and tools in your inbox

Much of what’s been taught about leadership is misleading, incorrect, or flat-out LIES!

Sign up for a series of emails over 8 days discussing each of these lies. Read with a new set of eyes, and you may come away a better, more inspiring, effective leader — and a more empowered human being.

Sign up for updates

We'd love to keep you informed of upcoming workshops