Space: Right/Wrong

“Between stimulus and response is a space.
In that space is the freedom and power to choose.”

Steven Covey

Space Series


Let’s talk about right and wrong.

One of the things that The Responsibility Process teaches me is that there is no right and wrong. Right and wrong are made up. They come from a point of view. Points of view are boxes and all boxes are controlling.

We’re always told to think out of the box, which means to let go of point of view – including perspectives about right and wrong.

We know that every time something goes wrong, The Responsibility Process® is triggered. Right and wrong are a very specific trigger, in a lot of ways our society depends on that trigger.

One of the hardest things about learning to practice Responsibility is learning that there is no right and wrong.

Right and wrong are all made up by humans to control themselves and each other.

Now that doesn’t mean that we practice anarchy. We practice thinking for ourselves. Right and wrong is just a autopilot.

In between stimulus and response is a space, and when we remove that space and put things on autopilot, we get stimulus and reaction instead of stimulus and response.

The thing to do is to feel the stimulus, in other words, catch yourself in right-wrong thinking mode and stop and realize that you’re in control mode. You’re in shortcut mode – when you realize that stop and think for yourself.

Often, the better question than “what’s the right answer, or wrong answer?” is “what do we want about this situation?” Asking myself what I want about the situation accesses intention. Intention is one of the keys to Responsibility.

Here’s what you can do about this today.

Catch yourself in right-wrong thinking. Slow down, and ask yourself if there’s something more to examine than just right and wrong.

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