Stress

It’s popular for experts, doctors, and others, to tell us that we need to reduce stress in our lives. My suggestion is for you to eliminate stress. Reduce it by not creating it.

All stress is self-generated. We generate stress when we chose to cope with a problem instead of growing to overcome it.

A problem is a conflict between what we want, and what we have.

When we don’t know how to take ownership of that problem, outgrow it, and solve it forever, then we carry the problem with us for the rest of our life.

Now add a few hundred or few thousand of those together. That’s a lot of energy you’re burning to hold those problems in place – and that is real stress.

Most of us are familiar with the idea that stress leads to all kinds of problems in our lives. You, or someone you know, may have a debilitating illness as a result of high levels of stress.

Here’s what you can do about it.

Start a responsibility practice. You can start one by one taking ownership of outgrowing of overcoming problems.

Here’s the secret. Don’t start on the big ones. Start on the small ones. Start designing your life little by little.

Look at the things you’re saying yes to. Are you saying yes to them because you want to, or because you feel that you “should” say yes to them?

Start saying no to some of the “shoulds,” and celebrate those nos!

When you say no to a should, you’ve moved past Shame and Obligation. You’re one step closer to taking ownership of the problem.

The next part of starting a responsibility practice is clarifying your intentions. Discover what you really want.

As you become more and more aware, you’ll find your fears and anxieties. Confront those anxieties so you can walk through them, to your new reality, where you are free, powerful and at choice.