Space: Thinking

“Between stimulus and response is a space.
In that space is the freedom and power to choose.”

Steven Covey

Subscribe
Space

Thinking

Our thinking faculty works just fine in Lay Blame, in Justify, in Shame, in Obligation, and in Quit. We do a tremendous amount of thinking in these stages below Responsibility. In those states we spend a lot of time thinking about how to cope with the problem.

Right now in our society, we have a tremendous amount of anxiety around the pandemic, around the economy, around civil unrest, around police brutality, around political leaders.

We just have an amazing amount of stuff that we can use to drive ourselves bat crazy, full of anxiety and fear.

If you find yourself doing a lot of repetitive thinking that sounds like “What should I do, what’s the right answer?” or “What if, what if, what if” – that is probably thinking below the line.

The most powerful question that I’ve learned is “What do I want about this?”

In times of change, upheaval or anxiety it’s easy to get stuck thinking about what everyone else is doing. It’s easy to do what everyone else is doing, react in the ways they’re reacting.

It’s ok to start with acknowledging what a mess things are. But don’t stay there. Ask yourself what you want about it.

The question “What do I want” gets us into the mental state of ownership. The mental state of ownership is where we’re in touch with our own genius, values and identity.

If nothing else, personal responsibility is about thinking for ourselves.

That’s the first lesson that I teach leaders and coaches.

If we want to bring other people to personal responsibility – we want to support them in thinking for themselves rather than just doing as they’re told.

Here’s what you can do today.

When you find yourself getting sucked into anxiety, or anger, or stuck in one of those thought loops I mentioned – stop it. Don’t beat yourself up.

Ask “What do I want about this situation?” And then listen to yourself.

The Responsibility Process
Responsibility Workshops Logo

Teach others how to build their teams with responsibility

Stay Connected

As a member of the Responsibility Community, you, your team, family and your organization can be rewarded with ongoing dialogue about what true Responsibility means, how to practice it and what noticeable, positive impacts it brings to life and work.

We are continually seeking and finding new ways to serve and freely share content.

Let us know how we can support you in deepening your own Responsibility practice. Or just send us a kudos. We’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Media
double line
responsibility.com logo dark circle
Sign up to get Responsibility practice guidance and tools in your inbox

Much of what’s been taught about leadership is misleading, incorrect, or flat-out LIES!

Sign up for a series of emails over 8 days discussing each of these lies. Read with a new set of eyes, and you may come away a better, more inspiring, effective leader — and a more empowered human being.

Sign up for updates

We'd love to keep you informed of upcoming workshops